In this week we have honoured Anzac day. April 25th is one of Australia’s most important national holidays. It marks the anniversary of the First Major Military action fought by Australian and New Zealand forces during the First World War. Generations of families and friends coming together to remember those that gave their lives during the First World War. It’s also a time to reflect and be thankful for your friends – your mates.
The term ‘Mateship’ can be traced back to early colonial times when men and women relied on one another for all sorts of help during hard times. It’s a term that implies a shared experience, unconditional assistance, going beyond that of friendship. Mateship is often used amongst men and became prevalent during the First World War during the challenging times male soldiers were faced with.
Over the years “Mateship” has become an Australian idiom embodying friendship, loyalty and equality. Friendships are some of the most important relationships a person has in their life with many a memory having been made with a friend. A mate is there when times are good and also when times are tough.
Friends can be the first person to notice a change in a friend. Not knowing what to do or say at times can be hard, frustrating and upsetting. It can also be emotionally challenging. You may notice a friend has stopped calling you, has become withdrawn or their behavior has changed. Being there for your mate and knowing what to do can in itself be difficult.
We have set out below some pointers to help you help your mate when times are tough.
- Encourage your mate to talk to other people, be it a counsellor, a lawyer, a family member or you.
- Be informed – do some research into what your mate is going through. Being able to understand what your mate is experiencing will reassure them.
- Let your mate know you care – tell them
- Be physical – give your mate a hug
- Do something together – perhaps something unique to the two of you. This will help your mate take their mind off the problem and have some fun
- Listen – just by being there and listening can be invaluable support for your mates.
Take time to catch up with your mates. Give your mate a call and let them know you are there for them.
At Bayside Collaborative we are here to help your mate who may be contemplating or going through a separation work through their issues in order to make decisions that are right for them.