In this week we have honoured Anzac day. April 25th is one of Australia’s
most important national holidays. It marks the anniversary of the First Major
Military action fought by Australian and New Zealand forces during the First
World War. Generations of families and friends coming together to remember
those that gave their lives during the First World War. It’s also a time to
reflect and be thankful for your friends – your mates.
The term ‘Mateship’ can be traced back to early colonial
times when men and women relied on one another for all sorts of help during
hard times. It’s a term that implies a shared experience, unconditional
assistance, going beyond that of friendship. Mateship is often used amongst men
and became prevalent during the First World War during the challenging times
male soldiers were faced with.
Over the years “Mateship” has become an Australian idiom
embodying friendship, loyalty and equality. Friendships are some of the most
important relationships a person has in their life with many a memory having
been made with a friend. A mate is there when times are good and also when
times are tough.
Friends can be the first person to notice a change in a
friend. Not knowing what to do or say at times can be hard, frustrating and
upsetting. It can also be emotionally challenging. You may notice a friend has
stopped calling you, has become withdrawn or their behavior has changed. Being
there for your mate and knowing what to do can in itself be difficult.
We have set out below some pointers to help you help your
mate when times are tough.
- Encourage your mate to talk to other people, be it a counsellor, a lawyer, a family member or you.
- Be informed – do some research into what your mate is going through. Being able to understand what your mate is experiencing will reassure them.
- Let your mate know you care – tell them
- Be physical – give your mate a hug
- Do something together – perhaps something unique to the two of you. This will help your mate take their mind off the problem and have some fun
- Listen – just by being there and listening can be invaluable support for your mates.
Take time to catch up with your mates. Give your mate a call
and let them know you are there for them.
At Bayside Collaborative we are here to help your mate who
may be contemplating or going through a separation work through their issues in
order to make decisions that are right for them.
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